Putting yourself first occasionally is selfish
Yes it’s ok to look after yourself. Constantly caring for the needs of your kids and family without looking after yourself can lead to exhaustion and martyr-dom. Be attentive to your children’s needs but make sure that you schedule some time to laugh, refresh, refuel and something to pamper and revitalise yourself. When travelling on a plane they instruct in case of an emergency to put on your own oxygen mask first – so you can most effectively help your young ones. The role of the mother is vital and this advise is very wise.
There’s a “right” way to be a parent
An insidious myth that sets people against each other. You know your kids best because you spend the most time with them. Of course there’s broad movements in parenting, and some fantastic information to guide us in the parenting journey, so focus on being the best you can be – so wrap your family in love and embrace the best style that works for your personality, family and circumstances.
Asking for help is weak
Of course it is not …but sadly it is often projected in many ways that asking for help is a weakness and lack of courage. It often takes a lot of courage to ask for help. Human beings are social and child-rearing in many cultures and in past generations has been an extended family and communal activity – we aren’t supposed to be on our own with our children. Ask for help, offer help – be part of the village that it takes to raise a child. And as you are strengthened – this will enable you to offer strength and encouragement to others also.